A lot of people don’t realize just how important it is to have confidence before you ever begin to work on an important task. Achieving goals is often about what you’re made of. If you don’t believe in yourself and you lack the confidence that you need to get up after a setback, then it is likely that you are going to give up before you even make significant progress.
The first thing that you can do for yourself to begin gaining more confidence is to start thinking kinder thoughts. There is a phrase that says that we are each our own worst critic, and most of the time that is very true. When you find yourself overwhelmed by the perception you have of yourself as being not good enough or failure, then you have already sabotaged yourself before you begin working on anything.
Instead, start to keep track of the negative things that you say to yourself. Once you have a good idea of just what a big bully you are, begin interrupting those negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Think about all of the great things that you are capable of doing and the things that you have accomplished rather than dwelling on the negative events that plague your mind.
You can overcome the negativity bias. All you have to do is work hard to catch yourself when you’re having negative thoughts about yourself or your process or your progress and force yourself to think positively and acknowledge all of the hard work that you have done and will continue to do to achieve your goal.
Gaining confidence can be a lot harder if you are around other negative people, so try and make sure that you are doing everything that you can to surround yourself with positive people who believe that you can do anything that you set your mind to. Toxic people will try to bring you down and doubt yourself, but there is no law saying that you have to believe them.
Instead of spending time with people who drain you, instead, meet these outside sources of negativity with a good sense of humor. Do not let them bring you down. Allow the comments to roll off of you like water and instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the good.
Developing your sense of humor and focusing on things that you should be thankful for is a great way to stop taking stock in negative thoughts altogether and start focusing on the things that truly matter. Sometimes, we become so consumed by our daily lives that we stop remembering that there are many things that we have to be grateful for, and opportunities that can help us move forward that other people might not have. Remembering this can up your motivation and help you stay
confident because you are remembering that you were given a great opportunity and you can make of it what you will. The power truly is in your hands. So use it for the best starting now!